30 April, 2009

good habits


levi and i have adopted a new little bedtime ritual over the last 2 weeks. before we say goodnight, we tell each other one thing we like about them and one thing we like about ourselves. it's been incredible. not only do we get to end the day with compliments, but we have learned more about each other in the process. the self-praise aspect of it has been really good for me especially. i have a tendency to be really hard on myself. and i mean REALLY freakin hard on myself. so it's good for me to make myself come up with something nice to say.

anyway, levi's compliment to me last night made my heart swoon and swim and then melt a little. he told me that he loved how much i love him. he then went onto say that he had always wanted "to be loved like crazy" and that i did this for him (and trust me, i do love this man like crazy. i'm nutso for him). i can't tell you how happy this made me! being told that i was fulfilling a wish he had since long before he met me made my heart so full and just about broke my face from the smile it produced. 

i highly recommend this habit to all you couples out there. and all you singles too, for that matter. there's no reason you can't compliment yourselves too. try it for a few nights, and see what happens. :)

p.s. you don't need to be married, living together, or sleeping next to each other to do this. it's not a night time or in person only kind of a thing. you can even try it with your friends or family! you can speak it, sing it, write it, or send it up in smoke signals to make it your own.





**also, helllloooooo to all you gorgeous new readers out there. i am so thrilled to have you here! let me tell you, i have every intention of checking out all my new follower's blogs. i can't wait to see what you all have in store for me! :) thank you so much for reading!

45 comments:

  1. I will write it down, for when the day comes that we get to sleep next to one another (when we're married) ...you see, it's different for us Egyptians

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  2. What a wonderful idea! I am going to try this. :)

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  3. I love this! I'm definitely going to try it.

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  4. what a fabulous idea.
    im like that too...{really hard on myself}
    so i think this might be a difficult challenge, but i think i'll try it out. after all, i lovee giving compliments to other people, but never to myself... never thought about complimenting myself...hmmm...

    and in response to your comment on my post about the whole athletic thing...i have had ballet on my list of things to do someday for awhile. i lovee watching ballet, i think i have seen like every movie made that has ballet in it...or some kind of dance...but i dont know..dont know if i could do it.. dont you like have to be really flexible or something? idk. but thank you for your advice. it means a lot. :]

    have a great thursday! :]

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  5. Me and my husband always end up complimenting the crap out of each other before bed cause we too are madly in love, but i have never thought about complimenting ourselves.

    I think its a brillant idea, we will be trying! because I to am completely hard on myself and i think it will help out my self-esteem. Thanks!

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  6. so happy to have stumbled across your blog... great posts! cheers, kat.

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  7. such a good idea! i loove it. i think i'll steal it and try the ritual tonight!!

    we made up a new little rule this morning in the car that every time we come to a red light while driving, we kiss! haha... i don't know if it's really very safe or how long we'll keep it up but it was sure fun today!!

    xo

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  8. This is such a great idea! It's good to stop and think about why you love your partner, and yourself. Kind of a daily reminder of good, so you don't get caught up in negativity. Thanks for the tip, and love your blog!

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  9. Ahoy-hoy! I came to your blog through Rockstar Diaries. Both are great blogs!

    You two are freaking adorable, and I love the way you relate an event.

    :-)

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  10. Ooh, I love this idea. Being a newlywed... this may just be the perfect thing to make as a tradition!

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  11. How nice--you two seem to have a very open and healthy relationship! I have never been good at talking myself up either--I think it has something to do with the way women are socialized.

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  12. I absolutely LOVE your blog! And more than anything, I love the fact that you and Levi are so much in love. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Actually, I just did a post on my blog called, "Venture Out on Love" and was asking for stories or thoughts on why true love still exists. Would you be interested in writing a little comment there? Otherwise, if you wouldn't mind, I'd love to use this story and post it on my blog as an example of a true love story. :) Thanks!

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  13. This is about the most adorable thing ever! You guys are too cute.

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  14. this is really cute! scott and i do something similar, but we he tells me why he thinks i am beautiful and i totally agree with you, it does help! even in our worst moods, we still tell each other and it either makes us laugh or eases us up!

    you should do the master's program from SJ! you can do it all online via cal state fullerton and only meet about once a week!

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  15. oh this is just too sweet:) i think my fiance and i might make this a new ritual as well! sometimes we take the ones we love for granted.

    i just discovered your wonderful little blog via rockstar diaries and i think it's adorable. will be checking back often!

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  16. aawwww that is so sweet. What a great idea to strengthen and reinforce your love for each other.

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  17. This sounds like such a positive idea, and would really strengthen any relationship! Thanks for posting this, I will have to make a suggestion about it to my bf!

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  18. I like your blog. I came over here from Naomi's blog, and I have to say, I really love your writing. You seem like a really genuine and nice person. Have a very happy day!

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  19. I love this idea! You can do this without sleeping next to someone...What a great way to build up your self esteem and confidence.

    thanks
    xo.

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  20. New to your blogs and love them already.
    I think it's so sweet. I may try it as I'm single and very hard on myself.
    xx

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  21. This is such a sweet ritual like a mantra to boost your self-esteem! Great idea!

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  22. i swear, before sleeping talks are my favorite...little giggles before the lights go out. i love your ritual!

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  23. oh, your bedtime ritual is too damn cute. will steal. xo, erin

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  24. GEEZ you are adorable!

    I'm so glad you put that little p.s. in there.. now I don't feel so bad about stalking you! I'm Angela Beth and I'm one of your new readers! :D

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  25. man oh man it made my day for you to leave a comment on my blog...
    i love the words of love idea..greatgreatgreat!
    soon
    e

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  26. such a great idea, i love it!
    and thanks for the sweet comment on my blog :)

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  27. Hello!!!
    Im a new reader and love your blog....You guys are so cute! And what a neat ritual!
    I am looking forward to more reading on your blog!

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  28. Dude, your blog is getting some serious traffic! It's fantastic. Congrats! :)

    Such an awesome ritual you guys have come up with. It's so good to let those you love know how much they've impacted your life and what you appreciate about them.

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  29. oooo great idea...once I capture that boyfriend and we get to that level I WILL make this a ritual

    onto OTHER NEWSS...I got a 102% on my TESTTTTT! I was stoked! I had to act all smooth of course and nonchalant, but on the inside I was jumping up and down!

    I read the post that Naomi put you in...SWEET DEAL chica! I'm happy for you...you do have an AWESOME freakin blog!

    after all these new followers I greatly appreciate you still commenting on my page!

    have a marvelous night or afternoon (you being in cali and all)

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  30. Aww I didn't know you guys were doing that! That's so sweet :)

    By the way, do you want me to save The Biggest Loser for you?

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  31. I am sure overnight growth of a blogger's readers must be a tinge overwhelming but your blog and you are really great. After your post today, we decided to adopt that habit too...my love and I both are a tinge (okay massively) rough on ourselves...this is a perfect idea! Love that we found you. xo

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  32. Dear Jasmine! Such a great blog you have here and this post is simply amazing. I will start this with my boyfriend tonight. We really need it. I can't wait to hear more about you, and if you have any great suggestion like this, please share! love: Evi

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  33. I'm in! Love this idea.
    I'm a new reader too :) Your blog is hilarious!

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  34. and by that I meant that you are one funny blogger... not that your blog is silly by any means!

    :D

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  35. That is great advice! I'll try it!

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  36. Love the blog! Seriously rad.

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  37. this is so unbelievably wonderful - I have goosebumps! I love my husband like crazy or - to quote you - I'm nutso about him! ADORE your blog and you are going straight to my blogroll!!
    xoxox

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  38. In the event you actually make it down the list this far, :-) I;d just like to say I love the ritual and might try it myself on my hubby of 30 years.

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  39. What a sweet post, I love this idea. Positive reinforcement is so important and I too am really hard on myself.
    I can't wait to read more about you...found you through Naomi. :)

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  40. We play the same game as Naomi when we go on long trip... kissing at every red light or stop sign. It is wonderful!

    But we have this habit of staying on the phone for hours every night (quasi-long-distance. boo.) before we go to sleep and always end up talking about how happy the other person makes us. It's wonderful. So we're unofficially playing along as well! ;)

    ps- Crazy in love is best. Definitely.

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  41. great idea! seriously! love it. so my camera is a canon powershot SD880 IS digital elph, and it's fantastic! i carry it EVERYWHERE just in case an opporunity arises (my other camera is too ginormous to fit into my purse hehe). it's really small, but carries a punch of 10 megapixels! it was about $220 i believe, and worth every penny.

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  42. saaawwweeeet! i love it. scott + i used to do "one thing we are grateful for" or that made us happy that day, but turning it on each other would be really amazing. love it.

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  43. I LOVE this. I showed it to my girlfriend and told her we need to start practicing this.

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  44. this is wonderful! i usually get grumpy when i'm tired so this will be a good way to change that.

    ps. i think your blog is so touching and your pictures are beautiful!

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  45. beautiful! 20 years from now you can write this again, 20 years ago we adopted the habit of...

    LOVELY!

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